2020, The Grief and Broken Heart You Have Given to Me

Granny and Me in 2017

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– Granny this is dedicated to you

No matter how much you try to convince yourself you will be strong as you watch a loved one transition from their earthly form to evolving into a spiritual being, it isn’t easy. At some point, my family and I knew we couldn’t be selfish because we wanted her to stay. During one of my last visits, I whispered in her ear and assured Granny that we would be alright because we didn’t want her to suffer anymore. A couple of weeks before she left us, her last prayer was, “Father, take me to the Heavens,” with her hands lifted to the sky.

On November 15, 2020, at 2:13 pm, on a cold and windy day, my Granny took her last breath, tiptoed out of her bedroom of 62 years, and peacefully walked into Heaven. I know she was welcomed by the Heavenly Father, ancestors, and many individuals she missed so dearly.

One and a half years old with my Granny

I don’t know about you, but 2020 broke my heart and, at times, my spirit more than ever. There have been other years where I have faced heartache and pain, but this year’s rounds of ups and downs have been more severe. Thanksgiving was very different this year. We didn’t have Granny, but we had each other. My family is small, but we have big hearts. This holiday taught me the importance of what courage and love from family truly meant though we may not always agree. We understood without a doubt that we can lean on each other. We smiled, laughed, danced, cried, and created new beautiful memories despite our sadness. I know Granny is proud of us!

First Family Thanksgiving without Granny 2020

Grief is very draining, and it can deplete every bit of you. It was challenging to grieve during this pandemic. Only so many people could attend the funeral and no risk of having a repass because we wanted to be cautious. As a grieving heart begins to heal, there will be those painful times when things seem so heavy. A challenging moment occurred while I was trying to find a song for Granny’s slide show. It was dark outside, and the tears began to flow while playing a rendition of “Grandma’s Hands.” Suddenly, the sun peaked through my window for a quick second. It felt as if Granny stopped by and hugged me right then, and I felt a sense of peace and thankfulness.

I must admit one of the most important lessons I learned this year is to be grateful for every minute. Family members, friends, legends, and famous people have been leaving this Earth in record numbers; it seems this year. Show appreciation to those you love before it’s too late. Try to forgive others and ask others to forgive you. However, if the efforts of resolving old wounds and binding broken relationships go awry, then it is time to let things go.

I know you heard this a thousand times (probably in a previous post), but life is too short to hold on to bitterness and anger. Life is too precious to hang on to people who keep reminding you of who or what you used to be. You know the ones who don’t know how to let go of the past. The present time is waiting for you to live life to the fullest with your presence even while navigating through grief!

Granny at her 70th Birthday Party

We are moving closer to a new year. I can’t promise you that soon as the clock strikes midnight in 2021, everything will be perfect. So, don’t wait for 2021 to find peace. Find it now. Be grateful now. Search for what can heal you now. Grow through this now. Learn to find a moment every day to practice thankfulness now.

It’s ok not to be strong all the time. Please know it is alright to lean on others that can help you. Reach out to someone now. Take care of yourself now. Look to the Holy Father to help you renew your strength now. 2020, you might have broken my heart in so many pieces, but step to the side while I welcome Love, Peace, and Happiness. I know with time time my grieving heart will slowly mend!

-Let your heart be full of new ventures that will lead you to the possibilities of limitless conversations!

Jeff Lorber featuring Eric Benet. “Grandma’s Hands.” He Had a Hat, Blue Note Records, 2007.

You’re FIRED by Klassy K

You’re FIRED! by Klassy K

Home Skillets! What is up? I hope everyone had a safe and pleasant holiday. Last year, we weren’t even thinking about that statement as far as being “safe.” Now, we have to mean it literally. The entire Thanksgiving and probably the rest of the holidays would likely consist of that along with limited family members, checking temperatures at the door, wearing a facemask, gloves, hazmat suits, using hand sanitizers, people eating outside or in the garage. Hey, it may sound crazy, but who knew this would be part of the norm.

Thanksgiving would not be Thanksgiving without watching football; yeah, we eat, maybe drink, but watching football is like the icing on the cake. Getting the family together, well now, you’ll have to be in different rooms while wearing a mask while watching the game. If that is not somewhat uncomfortable, what’s worse is when your team loses. You already know where I am going; the Lions got STOMPED, 25-41. They lost against the Houston Texans, a team that has lost as many games as the Lions

Do you know what I think home skillets? When football teams know that they are playing against the Lions, they probably tell themselves, “it’s like practice,” so let’s go in and have some fun while getting paid at the same time. I’m just saying! So far, the Lions has only won four games this season with a .364 percentile. That’s below the mark to even be a contender in the playoffs.

I know you are like me; the Lions SUCK, and why isn’t the Ford family doing ANYTHING about it! I mean, don’t they get tired of the excuses from both coach and players?! I saw a meme the other day. It had a picture of Matt Patricia, and the caption said, “If a coach was 2020.” Home skillets, OMG! I couldn’t believe it, but where is the lie, though? I mean, Matt Patricia was a defensive coordinator for New England Patriots, but what people don’t understand is that they had Tom Brady, a superstar quarterback from the University of Michigan. We got dreary old 30 something, $100 million overpriced, injured prone, and ungrateful wife Kelly who made a video ranting about our Governor Whitmer’s partial shutdown. Make all the excuses in the world; you guessed it, our quarterback Matthew Stafford.

Why didn’t the owners pick a young, hungry quarterback in the NFL draft? One would never know why? Matthew will probably retire in a few years, and guess what? The owners will have to rush to hire a limited experience been around and never won a championship quarterback. In other words, back to square one.

After three years of being the head coach for the Detroit Lions, Matt Patricia was finally FIRED! “Hit the road Matt and don’t you come back no more, no more, no more, no more, hit the road Matt and don’t ya come back no more, whatcha say!” So, take your overweight, middle-aged, pencil loving wearing, bear looking beard outta here! He tried, and the owners were fed up, but that’s what you get when you hired general manager Bob Quinn, and he brought in his own coach.

Hey, they fired Jim Caldwell with little notice, and at least he improved the Lions record. If memory serves me correctly, the Lions made it to the playoffs. Now it’s scramble time to hire both a new general manager and a coach. Well, I hope the owners take their time this time because guess what? The Lions will always be the team that never won an NFL championship.

Lastly, I would like to dedicate this article to Mrs. Dawson, the owner of A Heart Full of Conversations LLC. She recently lost her grandmother. Send your prayers home skillets, cause we all could use some love.

-Klassy K’s Sports Korner: a contributing writer for http://www.aheartfullofconversations.com