Being Thankful while going through Progression and Experiencing Life Lessons

Being Thankful while going through Progression and Experiencing Life Lessons
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Practicing Thankfulness while wearing my favorite scarf!

I am thankful for the progress and blessings in my life.  I remember some years ago I was driving a car that would stall on me in the middle of nowhere.  Well, that is how it seemed.  One evening it was cold and the children were with me, and of course the car decided it would stop movement, since it was growing older and more tired.  I was frustrated and crying, because the children and I were stranded for a few moments on a dark and semi-secluded road. Thousands of dollars had been spent over the years to keep the car up to par.  At that moment, I could hear a few of my friends in the back of my mind telling me from previous pep talks it was time for me to step out on faith and invest in another car. Though I only had $500, and less than stellar credit without a trade-in, I went to the dealer and was able to get my new car.  After having that car for almost two years, someone ran into the back of it leaving it totaled.  I was blessed to get another car which was better than the previous car.  Most importantly, I walked away without a scratch.

On today, take a moment to be thankful for the little things.  Be Thankful for the progression you have shown even with the tears, obstacles, limited resources, fear, frustration, and confusion you have faced.  There are times when you may have just a few dollars and a dream, but if you have the heart to fulfill it, you must go forth with making that vision transpire.

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A reflection of Thankfulness (Cass Park)

Currently, I am approaching a third year with fulfilling the mission of A Heart Full of Conversations: A Detroit Blog.  I envisioned the level of growth to be at a faster pace. I wanted to have a line of products to sale with part of the proceeds going back to the community.  I thought I would have a vast amount of people reading the blog, and multiple documentaries uploaded on the You Tube Channel at this time.  However, I had to remind myself don’t rush the journey.  This walk towards progression, and success isn’t a speed race.  It reminded me of when I was frustrated about that car.  I felt stranded, and my movement was stalled.  However, I know with faith, pep talks from the people I love, determination and patience something greater than what I expect is in my future for myself, and the blog!

On this Thanksgiving Day, I am allowing myself to reflect upon my accomplishments big or small.  I am taking it easy.  I am thanking my personal Savior for all the trials, and the blessings.  I am thankful for the gifts He has bestowed upon my life and allowing them to manifest through trial and error.  I am thankful for the times when I only had a few dollars in my pocket, and how I made it through those moments.  I am thankful for my mom and aunt who loves me beyond every fault, consistently support every venture I decide to embark upon, and always being there when I need them most.  I am thankful for every single friend who doesn’t judge or belittle me and offer ongoing encouragement when I try to allow doubt to creep in my life.  I am thankful for my home, everyone who resides in this household, and their patience for dealing with me. I want them to know I always want the best for them.  I am thankful for the days filled with hope, because it helps me realize that the darkness will NOT permanently consume my personal space.  I am thankful for Every situation that tests me when I don’t have all the answers.  Those moments become testimonies after the challenge.

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Had a slice of Red Velvet Cake for Breakfast (My daughter made it!)

So, this Thanksgiving besides acknowledging the mac and cheese, red velvet cake I will have for breakfast, turkey, dressing, yams, cranberry sauce, sweet potato pies and all the other stuff that you and I may Gobble, I want you to contemplate on gratefulness and be thankful for what you have.  Don’t let this society make you feel bad if you can’t go shopping on Black Friday.  Don’t let the pressures of this world tell you how you should celebrate the holiday which may cause you to become depressed.   If you have a moment of feeling discouraged then yell, scream, talk it out, but like I always state don’t stay in that negative place.  Practice thankfulness not because it’s designated on a calendar.  Show thankfulness while experiencing life lessons, because it will bring you peace and allow you to see the progress you made no matter the scale of it.  This is your chance to live your life to the fullest every day, and I encourage you to be thankful!

-Let your heart be full of new ventures that will lead you to the possibilities of limitless conversations!

 

Three Awful Words that are Aggravating Detroiters and Damaging their Wallets by Chellyz View

Three Awful Words that are Aggravating Detroiters and Damaging their Wallets by Chellyz View

Alright, I am about to type the three awful words that are leaving Detroiters feeling aggravated, defeated, and tormented.  Auto Insurance Rates……. Eek eek eek eek!  Did you hear that?  It’s the haunted music that is associated with those terrifying words.  I have listened to the campaigns of people vowing to address the outrageous automobile insurance rates Detroiters must pay.  I have heard the outcries of Detroiters feeling the pain of their wallets being depleted due to unfair rates.  Even if an individual is a good steward over their money, it doesn’t mean they should pay ridiculous premiums for auto insurance.  Recently, I have felt the frustration when searching for the most affordable auto insurance rate.  While trying to get my life right, something went wrong, and I allowed my insurance to lapse over a month ago.  Then my horror story began!

For the past year, I was blessed to pay one of the most affordable auto rates I ever had in a longtime.   Unfortunately, I missed a payment due to life circumstances, and was without automobile insurance for over thirty days.  I called the insurance agent and was ready to renew my policy.  However, I was informed I could no longer pay the fee monthly.  I had to pay the six months up front, because I was being penalized for not having any insurance for over thirty days.  Also, the rate had slightly increased.  So, I paused then pleaded with the agent to just give me a chance, but according to policy there wasn’t a possibility to make a deal.

I frantically called several other agents hoping to find the lowest auto insurance rate.  I also visited a few auto insurance offices in person.  Ultimately, the torture of searching for affordable auto insurance became a pain in the well you already know.  I received quotes as low as $405/mo. and as high as $937/mo.  Can you believe it?  All of these quotes were not only higher than my car note, but more than a studio apartment in the inner city with a utility included.

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Let’s discuss the fact that I didn’t have any points on my driving record, but another driver ran into the back of my former car in January 2017.  I was patiently sitting at a red light when a drunk driver ran into the car behind me, and then that car smashed into the back of my trunk.  The effect left that my car totaled.  I am forever grateful to the Holy Spirit I wasn’t injured, and only had to receive therapy for a few weeks due to slight back pain.  Also, I was thankful I had insurance at that time to cover the damages.  However, I was informed though I did not receive a ticket from that accident, my current rate would be being affected by the ordeal.  I wanted to grab my car key and throw it across the room and call out Florida Evans classic line from Good Times, “Da##! Da##! Da##!”  Michigan is a No-Fault State, but it feels as if the blame is being placed on Detroiters.

Last year, a bill was introduced to reduce rates for Detroit citizens. The proposal failed, because it was very controversial.  To reduce rates customers would have the option of deciding which package to choose for their personal injury protection (PIP).   It was stated the cost of auto rates would reduce by allowing citizens to choose their own protection plan.  However, there was no guarantee rates would drastically reduce for Detroiters.  According to an article retrieved from http://www.MLive.com entitled, “Bill to lower Michigan auto insurance rates fails in late-night vote” stated “A key part of the failed package was letting people choose their levels of personal injury protection.  A person could choose the $250,000 coverage, $500,000 to save 20 percent on the PIP portion or their coverage or unlimited coverage and save 10 percent.”  If an individual chose not to have unlimited coverage for their PIP it would have been devastating and costly.  For example, an individual who did not have unlimited pip coverage or a primary medical carrier to pay for services such as physical therapy, or chore services if care is needed on a long-term basis due to a severe auto accident, they would have to face even greater out of pocket medical expenses.

So, how are Detroiters getting by with these crazy auto insurance rates?  They are not.  Often you will see new to seasoned automobiles with major damage on these streets for two reasons.  First, people are “riding dirty” (singing in my Chamillionaire voice), because they don’t have insurance.  Another reason is people with insurance have an extremely high deductible to lower their insurance policy which is also not affordable.  Many citizens use out of state license plates and addresses to soothe their pockets of the unfair rates.  Also, people find methods to beat the system by “borrowing” someone else’s address who live in another city in Michigan.  Even the new Detroiters who are moving in upscale apartments downtown are using suburban addresses.  One article retrieved from www.michiganradio.org entitled, “Detroit sues Dan Gilbert’s Bedrock over tenant information” indicated, “As the city notes in court filings, “Some residents who reside in the city of Detroit use a suburban address of a relative or friend for purposes of obtaining lower auto insurance rates and/or for the purpose of avoiding city income tax liability.”

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Unfortunately, many people even myself prayed that nothing would happen until I could rob Peter to pay Paul to renew my policy.  Some drivers would purchase a seven-day policy to renew their license and vehicle tab when it is their birthday season.  In case you didn’t know, the seven-day policy no longer exists in Michigan. Thanks, Lawmakers!  You continue to show how much you truly don’t care! Oh yeah, I was offered another auto insurance that would cover my vehicle in the case of an accident, fire, vandalism or theft.  The down payment for it was decent, but the agent told me the punchline to the joke.  The insurance is not valid in the state of MI, and if I was stopped by the police, I could be fined with a $150 ticket for invalid insurance.  In addition, I was told to contact the finance company to inquiry if they offered insurance until my policy was reinstated.  The company told me they did not offer any auto coverage.

As the story continues to unfold, one agent told me to just park the car for awhile since his quote was too costly.  Ummmm, I don’t think that is a permanent solution, but merci beaucoup for your suggestion.   The Motor City was known as an auto industry, and the much needed improvements for mass public transportation has never been a number one agenda though efforts are slowly being made.   I see the uprising of bike lanes and the usage of electric scooters increasing in the city.  Hmmmm, then again maybe I could avoid auto insurance if I didn’t utilize my car.   However, riding my beloved bike and/or attempting to ride an electric scooter every day aren’t feasible solutions due to the structure of my life i.e. being a chauffeur for my children. Anyway,  the snow will soon be covering Detroit grounds, and it would be difficult for me to maneuver on either device.  You know, I did see quite a few people last winter riding their bikes in five to several inches of snow on streets that were not plowed.  I will leave that skillful act to the experts!

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Let me say this, shopping for auto insurance is a horrible experience in Detroit.  Most agents sounded sympathetic when telling me why the rates were so high and apologized while trying to explain the justifications of the injustices of unfair auto rates.  However, I thought can’t these agents be a part of the solution and lobby against these high you know so and so rates.  Oh right, but that ain’t their issue if the money is being made.  I know one politician is stating in her commercial, “Fix the Da## Roads.”  I am yelling at the television, “Correct these Unfair Rates!”  The powers that be have given people another reason to move, but as I always tell my peeps that’s not an option for me.  This issue will be addressed, Someway, Someday, and Somehow!!!!!  It needs to be resolved, because I will have a teenage driver in the house within the next two years.  My wallet can’t handle any additional stress.

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-Let your heart be full of new ventures that will lead you to the possibilities of limitless conversations!

References

Lawler, Emily.  “Bill to lower Michigan auto insurance rates fails in late-night vote.”  Michigan News, 11/3/2017 https://www.mlive.com/news/index.ssf/2017/11/bill_to_lower_michigan_auto_in.html Accessed 28 October 2018

Cwiek, Sarah. “Detroit sues Dan Gilbert’s Bedrock over tenant information.”  Michigan Radio, 05/14/2018                                                        http://www.michiganradio.org/post/detroit-sues-dan-gilberts-bedrock-over-tenant-information  Accessed 28 October 2018

 

Does the “D” have a Triple Threat? by Klassy K

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Does the “D” have a Triple Threat? by Klassy K

Hey, hey, hey, in my Fat Albert voice, no relation to Bill Cosby, but HOME SKILLETS what’s up? I’m sorry, but I’m so excited! No, I didn’t win the Mega Billion.  However, I can’t wait to start talking about the sporting events that have been going on in the D!  I know you have been checking out the games. Well, I hope at least.  Please tell me you have.  I have to say that the Da Pistons and the L-I-O-N-S, are doing pretty good so far. Yes, yes, I know in my last article, I mentioned that Da Lions “ain’t living their best life”, but Da Lions are looking quite impressive.  They must’ve read my article, just kidding! Da Lions are 3-3 and rank 3rd in the NFC North division, for those that may not know what NFC means, “National Football Conference”.  Now, I had to Google that myself.  Did you know that Da Lions have never made a Super Bowl appearance?  Close your mouth. Hopefully, that will change before my 5-year-old nephew graduates from college or when the White House has an African American Madame President.  Hey, home skillets, you never know!  I’m going to be optimistic.

Anything is possible, right?  The sky is the limit!  Believe in yourself!  Never give up!  I could think of every possible “cheer up” phrase, because sometimes money can’t always do it.  Hey, maybe a billion could?  I don’t know, cause in the words of Biggie Smalls, “mo’ money, mo’ problems.”  Players make a living doing something that they have been doing since they were kids.  You would think that it wouldn’t take much to go out on the field, stadium or court and give it their ALL!  I’m not saying all of them don’t, but I don’t know.  I guess the older you get the more stressful you become, because of the pressure of WINNING!

Speaking of stressful or should I say depression, Da Red Wings should not be allowed to enter the Little Caesars arena, period!  Mike IIitch is looking down begging God to let him come back, so he can turn around his team.  Da Red Wings rank last in the conference.  Did you hear me?  LAST!  The last game Da Red Wings played, they only had 8 chances to score.  The other team had 45 chances, I guess Da Red Wings should change their names to Da DEAD Wings or Da DEEP-Fried Wings?  I’m just saying!

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Now, Da Lions and Pistons are doing pretty good so far. So, I was hoping that the “D” had a triple threat with Da Red Wings, not.  They “ain’t living their best lives” and I’m not going back and forth about them neither.  Alright, I’m done!  Da Lions have won their last two games and what ever the coaches and players are doing, please keep on keeping on.  I’m going to keep hope alive!  Now give me an air pump fist home skillets.  I see you! Da Lions does have an upcoming game this Sunday, October 28, at 1:00 pm on Fox.  Guess what?  My psychic powers are telling me that they are going to beat the “shiznicks” out of them.  I tried to use my psychic powers on coming up with the winning lottery numbers, but God said, “How can I bless you with all that money, when gambling is a sin?”  Then I said, “Well, the person that has the winning lottery ticket, are they going to hell”? God said, “No comment.”  Well, I guess that’s why I don’t play.

Now, let’s talk about, DET-ROIT BASKET-BALL! The pre-season has come and gone.  It kind of looked like Da Pistons were not going to be a competitive team.  However, in the regular season, Da Pistons are 3-0 BABY! Did you see the last game they played against the 76ers and beat them in overtime?  OMG, shoot the way they played, it reminded me of the Bad Boys era. Blake Griffin scored 50 points!  The last time a Pistons player scored those many points in a single game was with Richard “Rip” Hamilton back in 2006.  I think Blake is trying to make the best of his days playing as a Piston.  I mean he is 29 years old, and that’s really 49 years old in basketball years.  Da Pistons are set to play the Cavaliers and the Celtics this week. Hey home skillets, do you think Da Pistons will go on a winning streak? 5-0? Be the BEAST in DA EAST?  Well, we will soon find out, but for upcoming games, highlights, etc., you can visit their website at:  https://www.nba.com/pistons 

Klassy K Sports Korner:  contributor writer for aheartfullconversations.com

Lions ain’t living their best life, thanks Matt… by Klassy K

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What’s up home skillets?? It’s your girl again, and I know it’s been a while.  Now that summer is OVER, and the kids are back to school, I am BACK BABY!! It’s football season, and you know I must talk about The Detroit Lions. The last article I wrote was about how the Lions are purring, instead of roaring. I was just about to write a positive article when they beat the New England Patriots. I was like yes, yes, yes, not like having an orgasm yes, but I was excited that the Lions won.  However, it hit me that in my opinion, the Lions won, because Matt Patricia used to be part of the New England Patriots. Who would know more about how to beat your old team better than the old defensive coordinator? I mean come on home skillets, the guy worked for the New England Patriots. So, what did you expect?

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Matt served as an assistant coach and defensive coordinator, and with that on his resume, they betta had won! I’m just saying! I know a lot of fans were rejoicing on social media, cheering in the stadium, eating and drinking beer at the tailgate, hugging and loving each other, singing ebony and ivory, and just showing love for the game. I know I was in the spirit of a lion as well, but all that excitement went with me to the bathroom, and I flushed it all down the toilet. You know why? The reason is the Lions played the Oakland Raiders, and the New York Giants the following week. In the words of Drake, they lost “back-to-back”.  Currently, the Lions are 1-3. Maybe they should change their name to “loser’s” instead of “Lions.” Why not? They have the same number of letters and they start with the letter L. Hey, I think I’m on to something. I should tell the Ford’s about my suggestion, but they are already embarrassed. So, why add salt to their existing wound. 

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I hate to even add more salt. Did you know that Jim Caldwell, former Detroit Lions coach, is now teaming up with Vince McMahon to reboot the XFL football team for 2020? I don’t know if you remembered, but basically it was a football franchise team made up of athletes that couldn’t cut it in the NFL and other leagues.  They had muscle, physical strength, and could still play the game. They did not make a lot of money either, unlike some of the heavy hitters in the NFL, but at least they got to “still” do something that they enjoyed doing.  However, it only lasted the year that the season started.  The XFL football franchise is trying to “get their groove back” or should I say, “Make Football Great Again” for the Lions anyway. Maybe XFL can bring some excitement on the days that the Detroit Lions play. Ok, I am done with the shade, not quite. Did you also know that Jim Caldwell was one of the best coaches that the Detroit Lions has had since I was born? Without telling my age, but since the early 70’s. I know the Ford’s wanted to get to the Superbowl, but hell Jim Caldwell took them to the playoffs!

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I don’t know if this new coach Matt Patricia is going to get the Lions to the playoff’s let alone a Superbowl. I know it’s his first year, I guess I should cut him some slack. Huh? Nope! Look at his resume, and then holla back at me. I am sorry Detroit fans, but 1-3 is not impressive considering Matt’s experience being a part of a ” winning team” that won playoffs, and later won Superbowl’s. Do you like the way I put the “s“, like I put the re”s”pek on that! I got mad love for teams that play together and win together. Hopefully, the Detroit Lions should have some type of motto to follow, because there is no “I” in team. Golden Tate can’t do it all, and the quarterback Matt Stafford needs to be protected. I think the Detroit Lions are lacking in “offense” and nobody can seem to protect the quarterback! If the Lions can stay away from Lafayette Coney Island and Krispy Crème doughnuts, maybe, just maybe, they can have enough cardio and strength to protect him. I’m just saying!

Well, while Jim Caldwell is “living his best life.” You can check out the Detroit Lions tomorrow, Sunday on Fox 2 Detroit, playing against the Green Bay Packers at 1:00 pm in Detroit. For more highlights and schedules, you can go to their website at www.detroitlions.com.

Klassy K Sports Korner:  contributor writer for aheartfullconversations.com

 

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Lions Roar, More Like Purr by Klassy K

 

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Lions Roar, More Like Purr by Klassy K

What’s up home skillets?! Did ya miss me! Well, I missed you. I missed you so much, I’m writing this article on a beautiful sunny day instead of riding my bike. So, you guys are very important to me. I know what you are saying, “Thank God it’s not raining, because God would strike her down!” I know what you’re thinking, but on the for real, for real, I haven’t written one of my infamous, yet funny and informed articles since June. I hope everyone is enjoying the weather, spending time with family and friends, and just “living their best life.” Smile, smile, come on! Well, I did not want to put the profanity after smile, must think about my PG-13 readers. I know you have heard that song with Lil Duval and Snoop Dogg, it’s so catchy.

Well, a lot is going on in Detroit. There was the passing of one of the greatest Entertainers to ever live, the Queen of Soul and Mississippi born, but Detroit fed, Ms. Aretha Louise Franklin. Many celebrities came to pay homage at her funeral. Mary Kay lined up their Pink Cadillacs on 7-mile, different casket wardrobe changes at the Charles H. Wright museum, and performances at Chene Park.  Man, it was crazy, but crazy in a good way. People lined up awaiting to show love, and last R-E-S-P-E-C-Ts to the “didn’t hold her tongue”, beautiful, kindhearted, pianist, award-winning, fur coat wearing, used her Bloomfield home as a storage, and would throw shade in a minute. Now, she is in Heaven with some of the greatest entertainers, like Prince, Whitney, Michael, Sam Cooke, Otis, Marvin, Luther, just to name a few. I know they are makin hits up there, singing and jamming with our lost loved ones. She will forever be missed; may she be at peace with her friends and family in Heaven.

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Speaking of being at peace, I have decided to be at peace with the fact that the Lions will never win a Super Bowl. I shouldn’t say never. I’ll say while I’m still breathing on this Earth, they will never win one. Did you see the televised Detroit Lions game the other night? OMG!  The Cleveland Browns spanked them so bad, they were purring instead of roaring. Thank God it was just a “preseason” game, but if this is what it’s going to be like, then what was the purpose of hiring a new coach. I’m not impressed with Matt Patricia! The Lions organization fired Jim and replaced him with another losing coach. I know, I know, it’s just a “preseason” game, it doesn’t count. However, it’s like going in Popeyes and asking for a $5-piece box and walking out with it, and then a Popeyes employee says, “They got roaches.” I’m just saying!

Well, I know it’s too early to tell how the Detroit Lions are going to play this season. Da Tigers are about to wrap up their season at the end of next month in September. They rank at “who cares”, cause they are not even close to thinking about the World Series. So many of us are looking forward to seeing the Detroit Lions players and coach this season. All I know is they better bring it or else, don’t make me pray to Aretha, because you better “think”, think about winning.  I don’t want to get the strap!

– Klassy K’s Sports Korner: contributor writer for aheartfullofconversations.com

 

My Five Main Reasons Why True Bloggers Should Never Quit Blogging

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Get Over Your Fears and Chase Your Blogging Goals to Keep Your Soul Active

I am here to convince you that once you conquer the beginning stages of blogging, you can make it!  You just finished your first post.  Admit it!  The constant obsession with choosing the right words and perfecting each sentence deterred you from publishing it for others to read.  At least 25 drafts, and several months later you decided the post is good enough.  Again, this is your FIRST post, and failing is not an option.  Finally, you pushed the publish button.  A sigh of relief shakes the room. After ten minutes you check the stats on how many viewers or followers you have gained.  A total of 24 hours passed.  You have signed in to your site at least 50 times.

Can I share one small factor with you?  Get over all your fears, post that first post, and let it go!  The initial post is not a determining factor in how successful your blog will be.  As stated in a previous post, don’t measure your success based on what others are doing. It will take precious time, strategic marketing, and an enormous amount of networking before the blog will be noticed by a few thousands or millions of people.  Believe me chasing your dreams of being successful will keep your soul active.  Don’t become delusional that you have failed because the process of growth might be slow.  Keep writing, posting, and hit publish!

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It’s More than a Phase, It’s a Passion

I have read the above statement many, many, many, many times in various articles.  The phrase rings loud in my mind and I had to answer the call.  I loved Detroit, therefore I was determined to write about my passion.  My testimony that I declare to everyone is that it took over five years to get the courage to do so.  Be careful and don’t write about something you are not passionate about, because it’s the popular thing to do.  For example, how are you writing about fashion and you dislike shopping?  How are posting about the best restaurants and you have no desire to consume food outside of your home kitchen?  How can you educate others on how to save money, but you don’t have the sense to save a penny?  Writing should give you a sense of freedom, not pain.  Find your passion, then write until your heart is content!

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The Blog Contributes Value to You and Those Who Read It

When I decided to focus on writing about Detroit, I knew I wanted to add value to my city.  Yes, I have said it before and will state it again, I am not oblivious to the trials this city faces.  However, the movement for change can start with something as simple as a blog.  Words are powerful, insightful, and motivating!  A blog should provide resources and value to enhance the life of yourself and especially others.

Hopefully, when people read your blog they will become excited.  One of the hopes of my blog is for people to feel intrigued to volunteer, don’t give up on a movement, start a movement, and for people to know that DETROIT stands for adaptability and beauty.  Remember, your blog is valuable, and you can uplift someone else or maybe the world!  You will face challenges while following and achieving your blogging dreams and goals, but don’t you dare stop trying.

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Proclaiming the Vision, You Have

When you Proclaim your vision, you are professing to yourself and others that your plans will come to fruition.  Your desire to achieve will manifest even when family, friends, and strangers doubt your efforts.  You will find yourself carrying a notebook at each given moment to jot down every fresh idea.  You will randomly text notes to yourself about the next blog you will write.  You will become unstoppable.  Your Faith will increase.  One of my favorite scriptures I live by is Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”  Proclaim the Vision.  Believe in your expected end to achieve what you want in life. I see You, my blogger friends!  Get started on that next post, and don’t look back!

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Your Heart Will Tell You Blogging is the Right Thing to Do

Once you have decided you will remain dedicated to blogging you will feel obligated to stay committed.  Even if you take periodic breaks from posting, you will feel guilty if you abandon your vision.  You will feel a sense of restlessness.  The pen, paper, computer, and relentless acts of typing will call your name while you are sleeping.  My Dear Blogger Comrades, I am here to enlighten and encourage you.  Access the reasons why you MUST continue to blog.  I guarantee you if blogging is something you truly want to do, then you won’t even think about quitting!  Detroit, as long as I have the strength, I will be writing about You.  Please believe, I wish all My Courageous Bloggers out there the Best of Luck!

-Let your heart be full of new ventures that will lead you to the possibilities of limitless conversations!

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Hope and Encouragement for My Detroiters Who Keep Holding On By Chellyz View

Hope and Encouragement for My Detroiters Who Keep Holding On By Chellyz View

 

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One of those Sweet Sunday Drives turns Bitterly Sad

So I was in one of my moods.  You know, when you are overly emotional for no apparent reason.  Maybe I did have a reason.  It was a Sunday mid-morning, and I just dropped my mom off at home after attending an amazing service at Kingdom (church).  My spirit was full, but my heart was on empty just like my gas tank.  However, that didn’t stop me from driving through my old neighborhood for a few minutes.

At some point, I knew it was time to take the drive home.  I took the familiar road towards the Davison Freeway instead of Seven Mile Road, and that’s when I had the ultimate flashback memory.  As a child, my aunt would travel on Ryan Road between McNichols (aka Six Mile) and Davison to hop on the Freeway.  Whenever she headed this way on a destination, I knew 85% of the time we would be traveling on the Davison to connect to the Lodge or Chrysler Expressway or stopping through Hamtramck.  On this Sunday, I felt sadder than usual while driving down Ryan.  The changes on this particular block were imprinted in my brain like a fingerprint etched on my fingertip.  In my childhood, this section of Ryan was filled with homes.  During that time the houses were so close in proximity you could literally shake a neighbor’s hand or pass a cup of sugar through the windows.  Yeah, this Sunday the sweet memories turned bitter.

This vibrant block is now a bleak stretch of blight.  You can count the number of houses left on both sides of the street. Often times as I drive through various neighborhoods, I see the recurring theme:  “The Homes are Missing and the People have Left.”  However, I listen to the news and my ears are ringing with the resounding message, “Detroit is the Comeback City.”  I believe in the comeback, but as I stated previously, let the Love and Promises of Progress take place in every nook and cranny of the 313.

Keep Fighting if You Want to Hold On

 

 

Some of the prime reasons neighborhoods crumbled are, because seniors, families, and dedicated homeowners lost the battle of saving their homes to overwhelming property taxes, predatory lending, and trying to keep up with the rat race of everyday life.  We all know this is nothing profound, but it’s the honest truth.  There are various programs available that offer relief to homeowners, but sometimes the guidelines aren’t feasible, there is a long waiting list, or funding has exhausted. I remember being caught up in the game of win, lose, or draw.  Our household took advantage of the Michigan First Step Program to save our home.  It took several months of phone calls, submitting and resubmitting verifications, frustration, and a few tears, but finally, we were approved.  The process wasn’t for the faint of heart.  For many homeowners, a decision must be made to let go or keep holding on.

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The main purpose of this post is to offer encouragement to those who are not quite ready to let go and want to stay in Detroit.  We need the people to rebuild and save the city without worrying about losing their homes.  Empty houses start the process of creating abandoned blocks and broken neighborhoods.   Thieves find unoccupied homes as an invitation to steal items such as hot water tanks, furnaces, and pipes which leads to the devastation of the infrastructure of solid houses.  At times the empty vessels are transformed into trap houses and depressing views for people left on the block.  My biggest plea is for the “Powers that Be” to design laws, and programs that work with the people who have the desire to save their homes.  Everyone loves the Comeback, but who cares if the people are losing and decide they ain’t never coming back.

List of Resources:

The following numbers and websites were found on www.waynecounty.com:

http://www.stepforwardmichigan.org / (866) 946-4732

Michigan Veterans Trust Fund (Wayne County) 313-224-5045

Arab Community Center for Economic and Social Services (ACCESS) 313-842-7010

City of Detroit Human Services Department Central Operations Division 313-852-5634 (Only for Detroit Homeowners)

City of Detroit Planning Commission 313-224-7887

Wayne County Treasurer 313-224-5990

Free Counseling and Legal Aid

United Community Housing Coalition 313-963-3310 (Detroit Residents Only)

Michigan Legal Services 313-964-4130 (Wayne County Residents)

Green Path Financial Wellness 313-964-4700 (Wayne County Residents)

Additional Resources:

http://www.clearcorpsdetroit.org

http://www.statheracademy.com

http://www.waynemetro.org

Detroit Blight Busters 313-255-4355

Home Repairs

Detroit Housing Grants | Pocket Sense
https://pocketsense.com/detroit-housing-grants-6001.html

MI211.org

-Let your heart be full of new ventures that will lead you to the possibilities of limitless conversations!

Make Chris Webber Great Again? By Klassy K

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Make Chris Webber Great Again?  By Klassy K

In my Martin Lawrence’s voice, “Wzup, Wzup, Wzuppppp home skillets?! It’s ya girl, coming at cha, did ya miss me? Well, you don’t have to answer that, because I know you did! Now give me an invisible hug. I hope you are enjoying the beautiful weather in the “D”, cause it’s hot out here for a pimp and everybody else that is soaking in this hot butt chicken grease weather. Yes, it’s just that hot, you can probably scramble eggs and sausage on your car hood, hang your washed clothes on the clothesline (that’s old school for my millenniums), take a shower or bath and go outside to dry yourself off, but before you do that, make sure it’s at night. You don’t want anybody to see what your mamma and your daddy gave ya!

So, now that the weather is hot, and Michiganders are enjoying all the festivals, concerts, parks, events, parades, beaches, etc., it is time to shine that green light on what is going on in Michigan sports. Well, to be honest, nothing is “really” earth-shattering to talk about, so we are going to talk about something else. I don’t know if you heard, but Chris Webber is coming back home! I know what you’re thinking, finally yes, yes, yes, he is going to return as a Detroit Pistons! Never gonna happen, again! Chris Webber was a Detroit Pistons back in the day like in 2007, played for a year, got his cheese, tried to prove his worthiness, and then he was out. Now, he is a television sports analyst wearing that dried up, needing some juices and berries on that matted untrained hair. Don’t get me wrong I love a natural man, but dang you’re on T.V. man (in my Chris Tucker voice). Chris Webber was a phenomenal basketball player, you should remember him for the “infamous timeout choke”.  Let me refresh your memory, it was the 1993 NCAA championship against the North Carolina Tar Heels, University of Michigan was down by two points. It was seconds left in the fourth quarter, and North Carolina Tar Heel player misses a free throw. Chris Webber gets the rebound, travels (refs didn’t see him travel), then runs the ball to the U of M bench, gets trapped by two North Carolina players and then calls timeout.

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I know you are probably thinking, “well yeah, that’s what he should have done, so the other team won’t steal the ball or get a turnover or maybe the coach can come up with a play.” All that sounds possible, but his team did not have any timeouts left. If the internet was out then, it would have been Michael Jordan’s crying face all over Chris Webber’s face. Hell, probably the whole team, including the coach.  So, guess what happened, U of M lost, but hey Chris Webber still went pro, faced the Ed Martin scandal and moved on. However, he is set to return only to be an honorary football captain this fall at U of M. Yeah, you guessed it, his old Alma Mater after being banned for 10 years. Coach Jim Harbaugh asked Chris and surprisingly, he agreed, but showing up is a different story. I often wondered why now? I mean U of M made it to the NCAA championship this past season, they lost, but it would have been nice to see a Fab Five reunion. Not Hi-Five the singing group, but that would be nice too!

Well, the Detroit Pistons are trying to “unify” a team of players in hopes of becoming a competitive and winning team, by adding Bruce Brown, Keenan Evans and Khyri Thomas-not Kyire Irving (Boston Celtics). So, now the Pistons has a total of 8 guards on the team. Really? Why? All I know is when the Detroit Pistons season starts this late October, I better see T-shirts in the chairs, free lottery scratch offs under my $5 pop and $10 popcorn, and Little Caesars pizza given to me when I walk in the door with my ticket, because Tom Gores is spending A LOT of money on these players. You remember Blake Griffin’s and Andre Drummond’s contract, don’t you? Well, if you want to be a part of the Detroit Piston’s franchise, they are holding Detroit Pistons Dancers Auditions this Saturday June 30th and Sunday July 1, Pistons Extreme Team Auditions on July 7th and 8th from 3-7 pm, Drumline Auditions on August 18, 2018, but check out their website for more information, https://www.nba.com/pistons/, good luck!

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Klassy K Sports Korner:  contributor writer for aheartfullconversations.com

 

 

What the Fudge?! By Klassy K

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What’s up home skillets?! It’s your girl, hitting at ya one mo’gin! I hope all my “home skillets” are enjoying the beautiful Michigan weather. Yes, yes, I know it’s been HOT, but try not to complain. Before you know it, we all will be wearing jackets. Now count your blessings! So, let me say a prayer for us, “I appreciate the warm and hot generous weather. I count my blessings with each passing summer day and I will NOT complain, in Jesus name I pray, Amen.” Now shout out to all the graduates, you finally did it.  Congratulations! You are moving closer to adulthood, now be prepared for further challenges, and responsibilities. Yes, to all the things that you didn’t want to do, but now you don’t have a choice. Trust me, I’ve been there and done that. I finally understood what Junior’s song, “Mama used to Say” means, because no matter how many times I was told, “don’t rush to get old”, I was rushing to get old instead of “living my life”.

Speaking of living the viva loca, the owner of the Detroit Pistons Tom Gores has hired a new head coach, Dwayne Casey.  Who? Yeah, I said that myself. So, I Googled him and this what came up, “The Toronto Raptors fires head coach Dwayne Casey after getting eliminated by the Cleveland Cavaliers in the second round.” There it is! Tom Gores went from hell to the abyss. Let’s accept the fact that Tom Gores is a businessman, he is trying to fill seats, and not win championships. Not now anyway. The new Pistons Head coach Dwayne Casey has never won a championship, and Tom Gores is compensating the highly seasoned coach $35 MILLION dollars for just 5 years. Yes, to coach 82 games a season, eat free, travel free, hotel free, everything big, yeah, he fancy huh? Yeah, he got to coach his team, go to practices, training, blah, blah, blah, sounds like a lot of work. It’s not work, cause it’s something that he enjoys doing (hint to graduates).

It was rumored that the “61 years old” new coach originally did not want to take the job. He was literally begged because he was still owed 6 million dollars for this next NBA basketball season from the Toronto Raptors. He was probably planning on just sitting at home cleaning his dentures and was looking for meals on wheels to come to his house. However, he took the 5-year gig. So, he’ll be 66 and is going to either retire or expire here in Detroit. Tom Gores was so desperate to hire a head coach that he forgot to hire the head coach’s boss. He was probably thinking why hire a general manager or President of Basketball Operations, that’s wasting money!

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Tom Gores and staff also interviewed Jason Kidd (former head coach for the Brooklyn Nets and the guy that lost against the Pistons in the 2004 semi-finals), Kenny Smith (former Houston Rockets player and TNT announcer, no coaching experience), Ime Udoka (assistant coach for San Antonio), and they did not interview Becky Hammon. I guess she wasn’t the girl with the good hair, but Becky could have made history here in Detroit.  She would have been the first woman to coach an NBA franchise, but oh well. Speaking of being the first and making history, Flint, Michigan’s own Claressa Shields, the first American boxer to win two consecutive Olympic gold medals, will be fighting next Friday, June 22, 2018, at 6:30 pm at the Masonic Temple. Tickets are still available at http://www.ticketmaster.com. So, come and witness as she fights her opponent Hanna Gabriels, because yo boy Miguel Cabrera (Da Tigers), 30 million dollar a season man is out the rest of the season due to a biceps tendon injury. That ain’t nothing no Robitussin can’t fix!

Credits: “Mama Used to say”, lyrics/composed by Junior Giscombe and Bob Carter, released in 1982, no copyright infringement intended.

Klassy K Sports Korner:  contributor writer for aheartfullconversations.com

THE FIVE MATTERS OF WHY BEING CONFIDENT ABOUT YOURSELF CAN HELP YOU HAVE A CONFIDENT BRAND! By Chellyz View

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THE FIVE MATTERS OF WHY BEING CONFIDENT ABOUT YOURSELF CAN HELP YOU HAVE A CONFIDENT BRAND! – By Chellyz View 

 

Be Confident in Yourself First!

I simply adore this place.  I have an abundance of confidence about this environment that I will always call home.  My heart can feel the potential of growth, and possibilities flowing through my veins causing an overflow of excitement.  The moments of disappointment will not overshadow the hopefulness I carry around like a four-leaf clover.  All the optimism I confidently have for an exceptional Motor City led to my aspirations of starting a Detroit Blog known as A Heart Full of Conversations, LLC.  However, my dear fellow citizens this sistah got a problem.  I can’t be confident about promoting a prominent brand if I don’t have confidence in myself.

Find Your Path to a Favorable Outcome with Confidence

Building my brand has been a challenging task, but I had to identify the problem.  Ultimately, my dear, I realized the issue was Me! Can you believe it?  I found my confidence after searching for many years.  Guess what?  Somehow, I lost it again.  I lost my focus.  The mission of the brand became lost in the shuffle of my insecurities.  I felt like the people of Moses wondering in the wilderness.  I lost sight of what was important.  Coyness, lack of faith, and uncertainty caused me to go in circles.

I was scared to move forward, because I thought I wouldn’t be able to handle the demands of progression.  I had to realize being fearful would lead me in one direction, and that is nowhere.  Being confident doesn’t mean you can’t ask for help.  It is quite the opposite.  Praying for direction and seeking guidance from those who already traveled a familiar path can help you find your light within to shine.  The end results will direct you to the path of a favorable outcome while having a considerable amount of confidence.

Having Confidence Doesn’t Mean Being Superior to Others

Humility will attract your own self-confidence.  You must learn exuding confidence helps establish friendships and bonds with like-minded people. This will help you align yourself with individuals who will support you and your vision through your highest and lowest points.  Don’t be haughty.  Try not to convey the spirit of knowing everything.  Be confident, but modest.

Worrying Diminishes Your Confidence

Sometimes I have to say, “Calm down Chelly.”  I am certain my brain talks to me during my sleep.  I should be resting but my mind is on overdrive.  I start thinking about planning an event, but the doubt rises like the evil spirits lurking to snatch my contentment.  I begin to question myself about why I should give an event, because no one will show up. What if someone states another event was better than mine?  What if I fail and I lose credibility?  What if! What if! What if! I make myself dizzy by allowing my thoughts to spin around with all the What ifs! Just plan it already!

Ahhhh, there might be situations when the event doesn’t go quite as planned, but hey if everything was easy you wouldn’t have to put forth any effort.  Take a deep breath!  Remain confident in all you do!  Find individuals who will keep you grounded.  No matter the outcome, know with confidence you have made every attempt to plan for an amazing event.

Be Confident in YOUR Progress

I found myself being obsessed with numbers.  This is ironic, because on my nine to five I constantly preach to myself do your job with confidence.  I assure myself not to become overwhelmed with meeting quotas. Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha! I must laugh at myself when I analyze my blog. I began to compare the value and success of my blog with others.  I sat in awe as I heard about a blog that had 10,000 followers.  I found myself standing there with a blank look after reading an article indicating another blog had the traffic of 20,000 clicks per month.  Oh no, I felt like I was losing a number battle as I recognized one blog was able to bring in $50,000 worth of revenue in six months from advertisements and sponsorships.

Hold it! Be confident in YOUR progress.  Be Confident in Yourself. Believe in your experience.  Your testimony and steps toward advancement will be different from everyone else.  I had to remind myself of these important lessons.  I know in due time, I will have a lasting impact, and touch the lives of many individuals.  Most importantly, I must be confident in my future, and the goals I set for myself.  My biggest downfall won’t be failure, but not being aware that the Holy Spirit created me to be me, Chelly, and a Detroit Blogger who is confident in myself and what my brand stands for.

I hope these steps that matter to me will help you be confident in yourself and your vision that can become a respectable and confident brand.

-Let your heart be full of new ventures that will lead you to the possibilities of limitless conversations!

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