Did the Pistons Make the Playoffs?  By Klassy K 

Did Pistons Make the Playoffs

Home Skillets?! What’s up? Yeah, I know you’ve missed me.  I have missed you terribly too! Well, I am back from Spring Break and ready to get things poppin. Hope all the Da Tigers fans were able to make it to opening day which was April 4th.  I saw a lot of social media photos of you guys showing love and support for your team, wearing shirts, hats, got your face painted, wearing cloth wrist bands, banners, etc.  Whew, Chile! Yes, I know it was a lot, but wait, that does not include the price of the ticket(s).  In case you are wondering, there are tickets that are affordable ranging from $13 and up. That’s depending if you want to be able to see the game without wearing bifocals which you may have to borrow from your grandparents.

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However, if you are ballin’ or received a company discount, then you may be able to sit close to the cock pit. Hey, if you got them for free, holla at ya girl, because like you, I’m frugal.  For all the money that was spent going to the game, I guess you’ll say, you got your money’s worth.  For those that did go, they won! Yes, they beat the Kansas City Royals, 5-4.  Now, the Tiger’s record overall is 8-5. It was a very close game.  Both teams did exceptionally well, but it could only be one winner.  Kuddos to Da Tigers!  Let’s keep hope alive and check them out today, April 12.  Actually, the game has been postponed due to the weather.  Hey, Minnesota’s weather is “Twins” with Bi-polarigan Mich-i-gan.  Get it, LOL!

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Any who, have you heard?! Da Pistons made it to the playoff’s baby!! Yes, Hallelujah, praise to whom ever you worship! Yes, yes, yes! Ok, calm down, not that type of excitement. Hey, maybe it was a good idea getting Blake Griffin?! I know some of you were wondering was he worth the cha-ching, *cough* 100 million dollars! Maybe or maybe not? I guess I won’t say he was worth it until they win a championship. Well, I know it is going to take more than one player, but I wonder, are they still cloning humans? Hmmmm, I’m saying it, without actually saying it, but can a girl dream? I can say that Da Pistons worked hard for that 8th spot in the East.  They secured it by using that blue-collar work ethic! It was a rocky road.  You win some, then you lose some, trades, injuries, etc. uggh!

There is no “I” in team.  Team work makes the dream work, and this is the only way Da Pistons are going to win. That means everyone is going to have to step up their game. No time for errors, because it’s the Playoff’s baby! I hope they play like they are going to get pink slips after the season is over. If they don’t, at least make it to the 2nd round.  LOL.  I know, I know, that will never happen. Maybe someone will get traded.  Thanks to that sealed hundreds and million-dollar contract(s), a player can lose every game and still get paid! Ah, the American dream! Now, it is going to be a challenge for Da Pistons, great teams like the Boston Celtics, Toronto Raptors, 76ers, Pacers and the number 1 ranking team in the Eastern Conference the Milwaukee Bucks. More than likely, they are going to get swept.

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I remember when it was the Cavs ranking number 1 in the east, but ever since Lebron left, that team did not even rank in the top 10. Ha, at least you know that Lebron made a HUGE difference. Yeah, like he is making in LA with the Lakers. I only say that because once again, there is no “I” in team. Cavs looked up to Lebron as their leader, motivator and “team” mate. Shoot, the Lakers are doing so bad, Magic Johnson has stepped down as their general manager. Ouch! Was it because he co-signed for “Lebron” and it backfired? Oh Isaiah, what do you think about that? If you want to support and cheer for Da Pistons, they will be playing the number 1 team, Milwaukee Bucks on Sunday, April 14, 2019, @ 7:00 pm.  However, if you can’t make it, you can also check them out on TNT, if you have cable.

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Lastly, kudos to the Michigan State University Spartans for making it to the Final Four! That changed A LOT of people’s brackets and some lost money, but who would’ve thought that the Spartans would have beaten the mighty Zion and the daisy Dukes.

Klassy K’s Sport Korner: A contributor writer for http://www.aheartfullofconversations.com

 

Helping Others and Your Community Doesn’t Mean You Must Lose Your Sanity, Self, or Smile! – By Chellyz View 

 

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It’s amazing how our children can give us a wake-up call.  As adults we are supposed to be the ones nurturing and guiding them.  However, they are watching us even when we are not paying attention.  Last month, I hung up the phone and my son looked at me and said, “Ma, you are tired.  You are always helping other people, but you need to take care of yourself.”  I replied, “You are right.”  Then time went on as usual.  Approximately two weeks later my daughter boldly walked in my room and stated, “Ma I was looking at some old pictures of you.  I’m not saying you aren’t still pretty, but you look so tired now.  You need to stop doing so much and take care of yourself.”  Finally, last week a co-worker stopped me in the hallway and with great concern asked, “Are you alright?  You haven’t been looking like yourself lately.”  Hmmmmm, that’s when I told myself, “Chellyz, you bettah get yo life!”

I wanted to help my community, peers, peoples, loved ones, and the world SUCCEED!  I was caring and helping others so much that I was beginning to lose my sanity, self, and smile.  It was imperative for people to heal, but I was doing so at the cost of injuring me: physically, and emotionally.  In the words of my children, “Girl, you doing too much!”  Here are the top five lessons I have learned over the years, but I needed to reiterate them to myself and for those who may need a little advice too.

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 If you say no it doesn’t mean you are the worst person ever to walk the Earth.  Having a big heart often means you spread yourself too thin.  If you stated, no the first time then you can repeat yourself by answering no again.  It doesn’t mean you are selfish, mean or uninterested.  It means you must reinforce balance in your daily activities.  Life is demanding, and why overwhelm yourself with a list of events to validate someone else’s happiness or to pacify your social media feed.  Take a mental snapshot and a break from the hustle and bustle of a hectic schedule.  It may not appear like it, but I am learning that it’s ok to choose a few good events to attend each month instead of 15.  Well, I’m exaggerating a little.

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Lesson 2

You can’t give and be a part of every cause.  On the blog’s Facebook and Instagram pages, I post many events that are occurring in the city of Detroit.  I know that I can’t attend, or can I afford to go to every program, fundraiser or good cause.  Therefore, I post the events or programs hoping that others in the community will show their support.  My latest slogan is: “I am the Village, You are the Village, We are the Village.”  Nope, it is not “Me” or “I am the Village alone.”  Collectively, there are enough of us in this village to show up or volunteer at one event per month to make a difference in this city!

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Lesson 3

Be aware of who you befriend. Bad spirits will drain YOU. Lord knows I have learned many lessons while volunteering or helping others with their vision.  One lesson was costly!  Just because someone seems sincere doesn’t mean their heart is right.  People may utilize your gifts and talents for their own good.  Choose who you want to help wisely.  Even when we use our best judgement, we still may experience hurt.  At times, I would become angry with myself for allowing my heart to help others who caused me pain.  However, I must remember friendships, and bonds have their season.  Learn from the situation, release it, and keep things moving.  Believe me life is too precious to become consumed with people and circumstances that can’t or don’t want to change.  Use your energy for something more productive.

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The same way you pour into others, don’t forget to pour into yourself.  Time is of the Essence.  You know you have plans, and a vision for your life.  It’s wonderful to push, encourage, motivate, and assist others when you can.  However, don’t forget to plan, prepare, cultivate, invest, dedicate, and sacrifice for what you want to achieve out of life.  Don’t lose sight of your dreams while helping others.  I have mentioned this before on many other occasions.

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Lesson 5

Detox, Defuse, and Disconnect.  Get rid of any unwanted stress or negativity that latches onto you and causes you to want to give up on everything. Over the past few months a few well known individuals have committed suicide.  People are losing hope, because they are losing their coping mechanism skills.  Social media is providing a false sense of happiness.  As for myself, my energy level was extremely low.  I was allowing depression to drive my actions.  My past was tugging at my present and weighed me down.  I was losing focus of my future.  Maybe, if I stay busy, I won’t have time to be sad.  Maybe, if I help others with their Dreams then I won’t place any effort in mine.  Therefore, I won’t have to worry about failure.  Maybe, if I give my all to the community then my environment will become an oasis.  Maybe, if I am nice to everyone, they will be nice to me.  Maybe, if I support every cause, when it’s my season they will support me.  Big announcement!!!! Quit trying to satisfy everybody, and everything.  Refuel, Replenish, and Reconnect with yourself.  Most importantly, seek professional help when you need to!!!!!!

Those are a few keys that helped me regain my sanity, self, and smile. Hopefully, they can help motivate you also.  I decided to take care of myself (again).  I have my cycles of ups and downs.  A few people even stated I’m starting to look like my old self again.  I have my moments, but I have a checklist to remind me to get back on track.  If you see me in these streets and I am having a bad day, just give me a smile and say, “Hey don’t just preach about the lessons you type but learn to live them.

-Let your heart be full of new ventures that will lead you to the possibilities of limitless conversations!

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The Pistons Next Hero, Anthony Davis? By Klassy K

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The Pistons Next Hero, Anthony Davis?  By Klassy K

Man, oh man, Home Skillets! I’m about to get right to it. Many may not know that the Pistons have a losing record, and it’s not even 50%.  They have lost more games than they have won. Sorry to be the barrier of bad news, but it’s about to get even worse. Now, you know about the trade to get Blake Griffin? How many players do you think the Pistons franchise had to give up? Or Round pick? Or Tom Gore’s bank statements or auction a few Bad Boys paraphernalia? Who knows, only what the media tells you, but you can get an idea that it was worth 100 million dollars.

Yeah, it’s crazy, right, but also remember that the Pistons just three years prior, offered “zero” a.k.a. Andre Drummond over 100 million dollars which equal about $25 million a year for a 5-year contract, not bad for a guy that averages 13 points and rebounds. Ahh, before you tell yourself that’s pretty good, Google centers like Joel Embiid or Anthony Davis and holla back. Now, you can also say, well it could be their coach, staff or teammates.  Blah, blah, blah, call it what it is! Well, I was watching the news about 2 weeks ago and Channel 2 was interviewing Billionaire Tom a.k.a Richie Rich. He is the owner and the guy that pays people who don’t know what they are doing, they think they do, but they really don’t. They remind me of “yes sir and what-ever you want sir” because the Pistons are about to do another idiocy trade.

Now, I don’t know if you know, but Anthony Davis is about to be a free man. No ladies, I don’t mean that type of free, but a free agent. Anthony Davis is currently playing for the New Orleans Pelicans, averaging about 25-30 points, and 10-13 rebounds. So, wouldn’t it be cool if the Pistons could get rid of that “zero” Andre Drummond and get with a hero Anthony Davis! Yeah BABY! The Pistons need to be saved! Can you picture Mason calling out 6’10, forward-center, Big Eazy, unibrowwwwww, from Chicago, IL ANTHONY DAVIS???? The crowd goes wild! Now the Pistons will have two major players on the team, Blake and Anthony, Batman and Robin, hmmmm, that sounds like money!

Well, that’s not going to happen, you know why?  Because the Pistons franchise can’t afford Anthony Davis. You know what they are doing?  Trading for GARBAGE and SCRAPS! Yeah, you would think that Tom Billionaire would just pony up the dough, but nah, Drummond and Griffin, combined is over $200 million dollars. Don’t forget about the other bench warmers. Did you know that the Pistons are worth over a billion dollars? I guess that’s why the pop, pizza, water (should be free) and other food and merchandise items cost you 1/3 of your paycheck.  Hey, they must do something to cover the costs to pay these divas. Oh, I forgot, you do have to pay for parking which is about $20 to 30.  So, make sure you attend the games alone!

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Now, back to GARBAGE and SCRAPS.  Well, the Pistons organization is desperate, so desperate that they are going to trade Reggie Bullock for Lakers guard Sviatoslav Mykhailiuk.  Did your carpet move too when you said his name? I wonder how Mason is going to introduce him to the Detroit fans? I know one thing, it doesn’t sound sexy! Also, the Pistons franchise is trying to get Thon Maker. Yeah, who? I said the same thing. He is tall about 7’1, shoots 3’s, rebounds the ball, and played for the Milwaukee Bucks.  He can be a great asset to the team.  Yeah ok, not averaging 6 points a game, Home Skillets.  I can’t make this up! God, please send us Anthony Davis!

For games, events and other Piston stuff you want to know about, check out their website at https://www.nba.com/pistons/

Klassy K’s Sports Korner, a contributor writer for http://www.aheartfullofconversations.com

Developing and Recognizing Your Own Principles that will lead to Self-Improvement and Healing

Developing and Recognizing Your Own Principles that will lead to Self-Improvement and Healing

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After the research, What Happens Next?

After a few weeks of allowing the words I had written to rest in a notebook, I finally decided to type away and brought the post to life.  Usually, I felt a sense of accomplishment after writing and finishing a blog post. The post focused on how I did extensive research about the principles of Kwanzaa and decided to actively participate in the holiday last year. However, this time was different.  Right before deciding to publish this post, I felt it was essential to do additional research about the founder of Kwanzaa, Dr. Maulana Karenga. During my research I learned in 1971 he was convicted of torturing two women and the actions were dehumanizing and brutal.  Later, Dr. Karenga was released from prison by 1975.  People had campaigned for his release by writing letters that were sent to state officials (www.dailycaller.com/2017/12/24/reminder-kwanzaa-was-concocted-by-a-deranged-felon-who-tortured-naked-women-with-a-karate-baton-and-a-toaster).

After reading about this newfound information that others might have been aware of, I sat at my desk in a complete daze. It was Friday, January 18, 2019 at 12 am in the morning, and I was unable to move.  I wasn’t confident about publishing the post anymore.  Everything around me was a blur. I knew I needed to rest, because I had to prepare for work in a few hours.  However, I couldn’t.  Since December 26, 2018, not only had I completed research about Kwanzaa’s principles, but I had recently participated in self-reflection exercises that helped me evaluate my life over the past 25 years.  I had a multitude of questions that were dancing in the air.  Each question lingered off beat because I was trying to become in tuned with myself.  First, I asked what about Kwanzaa, because the principles were deep and what I had learned wanted me to invest more in my community.  At the same time did this newfound information change my views about the seven-day celebration and its principles, because of the founder’s past?  It is ironic because, this question led me directly to a recently published article in the Los Angles Times entitled, The dark side of Kwanzaa’s founder can’t extinguish the holiday’s beacon (www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-oe-griffin-kwanzaa-20181223-story.html). After reading the article, I thanked the writer Chante Griffin even though she couldn’t hear me. I promise you she must have heard my thoughts, because it expressed how I felt at that moment.  Though the author indicated she didn’t celebrate Kwanzaa last year,  I had already celebrated the holiday before reading the articles and was still indecisive about the holiday’s future for myself.

Self-Reflection Should Lead You to Self-Correction

It was amazing how time was racing and it was getting closer to Friday morning, because each minute was slowly passing me by.  This blogger girl was going to be exhausted for work the next day.  I couldn’t feel the pace of my heartbeat. My whole body was heavy.  So, I asked myself the most important question.  What about the person I was and the person I had evolved into?  If people knew about all my faults, destructive behavior, failures, how I disappointed others, or my selfish actions that caused hurt and havoc, would that stop family and friends from loving me unconditionally?  Would they want to stop reading my blog, follow my You Tube channel, support my events, or believe in my visions?  So, I just sat there at my desk staring at the computer waiting for it to give me the answers I needed to move forward, to post this article, and most importantly to continue healing.

Though I can’t change the past, I can share what I learned while celebrating Kwanzaa and from the self-reflection exercises, I indulged myself in.  First, I realized that if you are sincere about becoming a better individual you must look within yourself and commit to find the tools to teach you how to heal.  Some of those tools are prayer, meditation, counseling, and connecting with people who have a positive outlook on life. Secondly, though we can learn and adapt principles from others we need to go beyond that.  We must develop and recognize our own principles that will improve ourselves and lead us to self-healing.   This is imperative if we want to have healthier homes and communities. Third, if you have strong leaders or ancestors in your life that have taught you principles about choosing what is right from wrong then don’t stray away from them. My family taught me numerous principles about life, and ensured I was spiritually rooted and grounded.  However, I am the one who drifted away from what I was taught.  I can’t blame anyone, but myself.  Don’t let others allow you to compromise your character for selfish gratification.  Fourth, learn from your past because it can shape you into becoming a better person for your future.  So, now a few days later I have a revised version of my written post.  I finally decided to press send.

Learning about the principles of Kwanzaa and the importance of self-reflection

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Kwanzaa Display at the Charles H. Wright Museum with Kinara Holder representing the Seven Principles:  Black represents the People / Red represents the Struggle / Green represents the Hope and Future that ultimately comes from the Struggle

It was another year of habit.  In the past, I had carelessly practiced the protocols of an annual celebration out of habit instead of honoring the ritual for internal growth.  Christmas was officially over and the spirit of Kwanzaa was slowly drifting in the air.  “Happy Kwanzaa,” but the celebration for me ended before it even began. I sat down and decided to evaluate the seven principles which were; Umoja – Unity, Kujichagulia – Self-Determination, Ujima – Collective Work and Responsibility, Ujamaa – Collective Economics, Nia – Purpose, Kuumba -Creativity, and Imani – Faith.  I also, decided to participate in self-reflection exercises that would help me develop my character and strengthen my own principles. It was important for me to confront my character because it needed an awakening about the principles I was taught in my life.  My family had done a phenomenal job raising me, but it was I who had failed over the years.  It was time to develop my own principles while not taking away from what I had learned as a child.  It was time for self-improvement.  It was time for healing.

Celebrating creativity in the community

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Left Picture: Host Momma Sol / Picture Above Performances by Shizzmane and Band The Zoo / Picture Below Performances by Michael Elliot and The Experience

I allowed my brain to become an empty vessel that was ready to learn about Kwanzaa and developing my own principles that could enhance myself, and surroundings.  In 2019, my purpose was to enrich the lives of myself, children, and my city. Each day of Kwanzaa, I spoke the contents of every principle in the atmosphere.  In addition, I shared my personal principles and stories with my children in hopes they were retaining facts, and life lessons like a search engine on the world wide web. By the sixth day of Kwanzaa, I was determined to take my children and nephew visiting from Georgia to the Charles H. Wright Museum to celebrate Kuumba in the community.  This day represented Creativity.  Yes, I was excited, because Creativity could really be an eccentric girl like me from the D middle name.  The evening included an event hosted by Momma Sol who performed meaningful lyrics that educated the Soul.  In addition, performances were given by Malcolm Elliot and The Experience and The Zoo featuring Shizzmane.  It was enlightening to hear the vibes of young local talent who graced the stage with originality and positive vibes that grasped every creative fiber in my DNA.

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From Left to Right My Nephew, Son, Self, and Daughter at the Charles H. Wright Museum

The most memorable aspect of this day of creativity occurred when my 15-year-old nephew who stands over 6’3 admitted he was hesitant about attending the event.  He stated, “I am glad I went today.  The music was good and I will have something to listen to on the way home.”  He asked the performers for their info so he could download their tunes on Sound Cloud which is another lesson someone needs to school me on.  While driving home my nephew made a profound statement that overwhelmed my spirit with joy which was, “I learned to believe in myself and to follow my dreams.”  He then proceeded to inform me about his future endeavors.  Let me tell every individual reading this post that Chellyz almost dropped a heart full of tears, but instead I gleamed with smiles of contentment.

Welcoming Faith While Living Life

Finally, I approached the last day of Kwanzaa, Tuesday, January 1, 2019, with anticipation.  I said “Hello” to Imani which stood for Faith.  What a way to bring in the new year with one of the most challenging yet prominent principles we face in our daily lives as it relates to having faith for providing peace and comfort in our homes, working a nine to five, raising children, building a business or career, paying the bills, developing and finishing projects, maintaining relationships, exercising our spirituality and understanding the checks and balances with our physical and mental health.  Phew, and that is probably not half of the battles we face in this lifetime.  Yes, I greeted the principle with arms outstretched and decided it was time to have the Faith to succeed, to build, to grow, to learn, to overcome and to soar to greater heights in Life.

One of my personal principles I decided to concentrate on in 2019 was self-healing.  Also, implementing peace would be a guiding principle in my life.  I am finding the tools to exert peace to help demolish unwanted battles, depression, or self-distrust that could lead to my self-destruction.  Though it is difficult, I know it is time to keep evolving into a better individual, move beyond my faults, and accept the good the universe and the Holy Spirit is offering to me.

Do You Stand Behind the Principles, Proverbs, or Proclamations You State?

What principles, proverbs or proclamations are you standing by in 2019 and refuse to walk away from?  When you state, “It takes a Village” will you contribute, rebuild, and restore to the sustainability of the community?  When you chant, “Stop the Violence” will you show up for a local peace rally?  When you state, “I’m Blessed and Highly Favored” will you walk in Faith and not place all your focus on doubt?  When you shout, “I am My Brother’s or Sister’s Keeper” are you willing to make sacrifices or promises to ensure you will assist or protect them in times of distress or opposition?  When you finally tell yourself, “I’m going to develop principles to make me better,” are you willing to self-reflect and make corrections to live a more meaningful life filled with overwhelming potential?  Make a list of your own principles for self-improvement and healing, because your heart, health, family, soul, and community is depending on it.  Evaluate yourself and answers and keep your girl posted!

-Let your heart be full of new ventures that will lead you to the possibilities of limitless conversations!

References

Griffin, Chante. “The dark side of Kwanzaa’s founder can’t extinguish the holiday’s beacon.” Los Angeles Times, 23 Dec. 2018 www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-oe-griffin- kwanzaa-20181223-story.html

 “Reminder:  Kwanzaa was concocted by a Deranged Felon Who Brutally Tortured Two Naked Women with a Karate Baton and a Toaster.”  The Daily Caller, 24 Dec. 2016 www.dailycaller.com/2017/12/24/reminder-kwanzaa-was-concocted-by-a-deranged-felon-who-tortured-naked-women-with-a-karate-baton-and-a-toaster/

“10 Facts About Kwanzaa Founder Dr. Karenga.” Woldcnewsstaff, 2012 www.woldcnews.com/978964/10-facts-about-kwanzaa-founder-dr-karenga/

“The History, Principles, and Symbols of Kwanzaa.” Interexchange, 18, Dec. 2015 www.interexchange.org/articles/career-training-usa/history-principles-and-symbols-of-kwanzaa/

 

Rumor Alert: Federal gov’t is shutting down Detroit Sports too! by Klassy K

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Rumor alert:   Federal gov’t is shutting down Detroit Sports too! by Klassy K 

Happy NEW YEAR Home Skillets! Did ya miss me?! Mannnn! I know it’s been a LONG time. I had to take a hiatus and give myself a mental break, because of what is going on in Detroit sports. It’s depressing. I mean have you checked out Da Buffalo Wild Wings season percentage?  or The Failed Pistons? or what about Da Kittens? I’ll give you a moment to Google it, do you see it? Yes, now you see why I am clowning our sports teams. When I watch the news, I do so right before the announcers start talking about sports.  They even look depressed. Maybe that’s why they start with the bad and the good first, then they save the ugly for last. I’m just saying. Have you ever noticed how the announcers try to keep the same facial expression? They look like they are trying to sell you a car or something.  You know the one with the bullet holes, two flat tires, and broken headlight?  They’re neither happy or sad when they’re speaking in the camera. I think the only time they are showing some type of emotion is when they are talking about OTHER winning teams that are not part of the Detroit franchise. I am not going to lie Supaman Griffin is playing the hell out of that $100-million-dollar salary, but I was kind of disappointed about one of the games he played recently.  His rich butt missed those free throws at the end of the game, and you know which one. Was it me or did he miss them intentionally? I mean Da Failed Pistons could have won that game. Makes you go hmmmmm……  Well, I mean so what if he missed it.  It’s not like they can fine him or something, I mean win or lose, he still getting PAID.

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Unfortunately, us rat racers if we don’t go to work, we don’t get paid. It’s just that simple. I wonder if the NBA owners would implement that philosophy to their general practices, and see how well some of these “spoiled” NBA players will start playing better? Well, I’m just talking about “our” teams, nobody else’s, but I betcha’ things would be a lot different. Just think if they would have to punch in and out, take 30 minutes or if you are lucky, an hour lunch break, maybe have one or two 15-minute breaks, etc. I bet you they’ll start appreciating their dream job and playing playoff basketball every night! I mean think about it? If they knew that how they performed on game night depended upon them getting traded or benched or fired, how would they play?  Makes you go hmmmmmm. The Detroit Piston needs to lose the rest of their games.  Yeah, I said it!  We need to try to get a top draft pick in the lottery.  But guess what?  The owner Tom Gores gave that up, because of his deal to get Blake Griffin. WTF!?!  So, we are going to “suck again” for the next couple of years. I got to give it to Blake, he is the TOP SCORER for the Detroit Pistons. So, maybe they should change the name to Blake’s Piston’s, I’m just saying! I mean the other bench warmers are pretty good, like Reggie, Zasa, Ish, Andre, etc. However, I’m sorry Blake is a one-man show. Come on now home skillets, you know you be jitting when you see Blake playing!  Keep jitting, because maybe it will increase their stats.

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And what about Da Kittens? Did you hear that they are in talks of trading our golden boy quarter whack Mr. Matt? Hey, what else could be a New Year’s “solution” for me?  Did you know they paid him over $100 million dollars to run and throw a ball?  Mr. Whack Matt has been a part of the Detroit football franchise for more than 8 years?  In my opinion, the Ford owners need to fire their scouts, because I’m trying to figure out, what are they looking for in a player?  Do they wait till these players go to college, then wait to see how they play in college and if they are on a “winning team”, then they decide?  Unfortunately, Mr. Whack Matt is still the quarterback for the Detroit Lions. SMH! I guess the good thing is that the franchise did fire the offensive coordinator Jim Cooter and got rid of Golden Tate.  Well, that was not a smart move, cause guess what?  Golden Tate is in the freakin playoffs with the Philadelphia Eagles. SMH! That should let you know, Tate was not the problem!  I mean yes, the Philadelphia Eagles won the Super Bowl last year. So, technically Tate is just fortunate enough to be a part of a winning franchise. Maybe the Detroit Lions should just re-build and go back to the drawing board, you know take it back to elementary. It’s not rocket science people! Defensive helps the offense. Well, put a fork in Da Lions, because their season is done, son! The Red Wings are 7th in the Atlantic Division. That pretty much means they are second from being last, but hey maybe it’s hard out here for a hockey player “pimp”. I mean come on Red Wings, you were given MANY opportunities to win games, but it just seems like they choke sometimes on the penalty shot.  SMH!  I don’t normally watch the Red Wings, because it’s just boring. It’s like watching tennis or a golf match or Trump talking about building a 5-billion-dollar wall.  It’s sleepy time!

The Detroit sports teams: Lions, Wings, Pistons and the Detroit Titans have lost more games than they have won.  Well, what do I know? If you don’t believe me, you can always check out their websites for stats/games/roster and other highlights for the Detroit Titans: www.detroittitans.com, Pistons: www.detroitpistons.com, Wings: www.detroitredwings.com, and ain’t no use in listing Da Kittens a.k.a Da Lions. Maybe next year? NOT! Keep jitting home skillets!

Klassy K’s Sports Korner, a contributor writer for aheartfullofconversations.com

 

 

Perspective is Everything by Tresa Simmons

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I’ve been working extremely hard, and that is going to change this year.  However, that statement was made to move me to another point.  I have been so exhausted these last couple of days although I rested.  I rested, for the most part literally, unless I had somewhere to be.  So on yesterday, as I usually do every year, I honored myself in keeping the ritual to bring the New Year in with clean clothes and a clean home.  What was different this year than all the other years was I started at about 5 pm.  The washing of clothes began, a journey to the grocery store, and the cleaning.  I was almost done when I realized hmmm I am not going to finish before 12 am.  I committed right then and there that I would not go into the New Year in a hurried mindset.  No, I knew that was not what I wanted.  Although then, I never realized it, but to have done so I would have come into the new year with this attitude of ‘there is not enough’….not enough time, not enough me, not enough.  When I made a different choice, immediately the thought came to me that somewhere the New Year has not started, and I thought about Arizona where my children resided.  I made the decision that would be my New Year time.  I chuckled and continue to do what I was doing.

Prior to this moment, earlier while cleaning, I remembered thinking another year of not being in companionship and no male company to bring the New Year in with.  No judgment, no sadness, but a statement to myself that next year this will change.  I kept doing what I was doing.  Here is where it gets so interesting.  Source has jokes.  My new year began with two men.  A little after 11pm a very dear friend of mine contacted me and we talked to almost 1 am and wished each other a Happy New Year.  Then another brother and I talked after he reached out to me.  Both have minds that make me think of orgasmic living.  I am not in relationship with either, but my perspective and mindset created a new experience for me.  Rather than complain about what I did not have, I set an intention.  Oh, and I forgot to say one of my beautiful sisters sent a word that she is sending love to me for the New Year.  I immediately accepted and told her I knew that it was not just only love from her but the love of a significant other as well.  So as I tell my testimony, I see what recently happened to me as Source saying ‘KEEP YOUR MIND RIGHT.  I HAVE YOU.’  Perspective is everything.

So whether it is the desire for a relationship, to finish cleaning before the New Year, a business or whatever, perspective is everything.  Begin to see all the good that is around you and in every situation.  I am so excited about 2019.  In 2018, I came out of hiding.  In doing so, which sounds like an oxymoron statement, I had to enter back into the darkness of myself with a different intent to see me and connect with myself.  This year I step into leadership first becoming a good leader of myself, my life.  Then move in the gifts to honor and to be of service to the feminine which serves us all well.

Being Thankful while going through Progression and Experiencing Life Lessons

Being Thankful while going through Progression and Experiencing Life Lessons
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Practicing Thankfulness while wearing my favorite scarf!

I am thankful for the progress and blessings in my life.  I remember some years ago I was driving a car that would stall on me in the middle of nowhere.  Well, that is how it seemed.  One evening it was cold and the children were with me, and of course the car decided it would stop movement, since it was growing older and more tired.  I was frustrated and crying, because the children and I were stranded for a few moments on a dark and semi-secluded road. Thousands of dollars had been spent over the years to keep the car up to par.  At that moment, I could hear a few of my friends in the back of my mind telling me from previous pep talks it was time for me to step out on faith and invest in another car. Though I only had $500, and less than stellar credit without a trade-in, I went to the dealer and was able to get my new car.  After having that car for almost two years, someone ran into the back of it leaving it totaled.  I was blessed to get another car which was better than the previous car.  Most importantly, I walked away without a scratch.

On today, take a moment to be thankful for the little things.  Be Thankful for the progression you have shown even with the tears, obstacles, limited resources, fear, frustration, and confusion you have faced.  There are times when you may have just a few dollars and a dream, but if you have the heart to fulfill it, you must go forth with making that vision transpire.

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A reflection of Thankfulness (Cass Park)

Currently, I am approaching a third year with fulfilling the mission of A Heart Full of Conversations: A Detroit Blog.  I envisioned the level of growth to be at a faster pace. I wanted to have a line of products to sale with part of the proceeds going back to the community.  I thought I would have a vast amount of people reading the blog, and multiple documentaries uploaded on the You Tube Channel at this time.  However, I had to remind myself don’t rush the journey.  This walk towards progression, and success isn’t a speed race.  It reminded me of when I was frustrated about that car.  I felt stranded, and my movement was stalled.  However, I know with faith, pep talks from the people I love, determination and patience something greater than what I expect is in my future for myself, and the blog!

On this Thanksgiving Day, I am allowing myself to reflect upon my accomplishments big or small.  I am taking it easy.  I am thanking my personal Savior for all the trials, and the blessings.  I am thankful for the gifts He has bestowed upon my life and allowing them to manifest through trial and error.  I am thankful for the times when I only had a few dollars in my pocket, and how I made it through those moments.  I am thankful for my mom and aunt who loves me beyond every fault, consistently support every venture I decide to embark upon, and always being there when I need them most.  I am thankful for every single friend who doesn’t judge or belittle me and offer ongoing encouragement when I try to allow doubt to creep in my life.  I am thankful for my home, everyone who resides in this household, and their patience for dealing with me. I want them to know I always want the best for them.  I am thankful for the days filled with hope, because it helps me realize that the darkness will NOT permanently consume my personal space.  I am thankful for Every situation that tests me when I don’t have all the answers.  Those moments become testimonies after the challenge.

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Had a slice of Red Velvet Cake for Breakfast (My daughter made it!)

So, this Thanksgiving besides acknowledging the mac and cheese, red velvet cake I will have for breakfast, turkey, dressing, yams, cranberry sauce, sweet potato pies and all the other stuff that you and I may Gobble, I want you to contemplate on gratefulness and be thankful for what you have.  Don’t let this society make you feel bad if you can’t go shopping on Black Friday.  Don’t let the pressures of this world tell you how you should celebrate the holiday which may cause you to become depressed.   If you have a moment of feeling discouraged then yell, scream, talk it out, but like I always state don’t stay in that negative place.  Practice thankfulness not because it’s designated on a calendar.  Show thankfulness while experiencing life lessons, because it will bring you peace and allow you to see the progress you made no matter the scale of it.  This is your chance to live your life to the fullest every day, and I encourage you to be thankful!

-Let your heart be full of new ventures that will lead you to the possibilities of limitless conversations!

 

Three Awful Words that are Aggravating Detroiters and Damaging their Wallets by Chellyz View

Three Awful Words that are Aggravating Detroiters and Damaging their Wallets by Chellyz View

Alright, I am about to type the three awful words that are leaving Detroiters feeling aggravated, defeated, and tormented.  Auto Insurance Rates……. Eek eek eek eek!  Did you hear that?  It’s the haunted music that is associated with those terrifying words.  I have listened to the campaigns of people vowing to address the outrageous automobile insurance rates Detroiters must pay.  I have heard the outcries of Detroiters feeling the pain of their wallets being depleted due to unfair rates.  Even if an individual is a good steward over their money, it doesn’t mean they should pay ridiculous premiums for auto insurance.  Recently, I have felt the frustration when searching for the most affordable auto insurance rate.  While trying to get my life right, something went wrong, and I allowed my insurance to lapse over a month ago.  Then my horror story began!

For the past year, I was blessed to pay one of the most affordable auto rates I ever had in a longtime.   Unfortunately, I missed a payment due to life circumstances, and was without automobile insurance for over thirty days.  I called the insurance agent and was ready to renew my policy.  However, I was informed I could no longer pay the fee monthly.  I had to pay the six months up front, because I was being penalized for not having any insurance for over thirty days.  Also, the rate had slightly increased.  So, I paused then pleaded with the agent to just give me a chance, but according to policy there wasn’t a possibility to make a deal.

I frantically called several other agents hoping to find the lowest auto insurance rate.  I also visited a few auto insurance offices in person.  Ultimately, the torture of searching for affordable auto insurance became a pain in the well you already know.  I received quotes as low as $405/mo. and as high as $937/mo.  Can you believe it?  All of these quotes were not only higher than my car note, but more than a studio apartment in the inner city with a utility included.

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Let’s discuss the fact that I didn’t have any points on my driving record, but another driver ran into the back of my former car in January 2017.  I was patiently sitting at a red light when a drunk driver ran into the car behind me, and then that car smashed into the back of my trunk.  The effect left that my car totaled.  I am forever grateful to the Holy Spirit I wasn’t injured, and only had to receive therapy for a few weeks due to slight back pain.  Also, I was thankful I had insurance at that time to cover the damages.  However, I was informed though I did not receive a ticket from that accident, my current rate would be being affected by the ordeal.  I wanted to grab my car key and throw it across the room and call out Florida Evans classic line from Good Times, “Da##! Da##! Da##!”  Michigan is a No-Fault State, but it feels as if the blame is being placed on Detroiters.

Last year, a bill was introduced to reduce rates for Detroit citizens. The proposal failed, because it was very controversial.  To reduce rates customers would have the option of deciding which package to choose for their personal injury protection (PIP).   It was stated the cost of auto rates would reduce by allowing citizens to choose their own protection plan.  However, there was no guarantee rates would drastically reduce for Detroiters.  According to an article retrieved from http://www.MLive.com entitled, “Bill to lower Michigan auto insurance rates fails in late-night vote” stated “A key part of the failed package was letting people choose their levels of personal injury protection.  A person could choose the $250,000 coverage, $500,000 to save 20 percent on the PIP portion or their coverage or unlimited coverage and save 10 percent.”  If an individual chose not to have unlimited coverage for their PIP it would have been devastating and costly.  For example, an individual who did not have unlimited pip coverage or a primary medical carrier to pay for services such as physical therapy, or chore services if care is needed on a long-term basis due to a severe auto accident, they would have to face even greater out of pocket medical expenses.

So, how are Detroiters getting by with these crazy auto insurance rates?  They are not.  Often you will see new to seasoned automobiles with major damage on these streets for two reasons.  First, people are “riding dirty” (singing in my Chamillionaire voice), because they don’t have insurance.  Another reason is people with insurance have an extremely high deductible to lower their insurance policy which is also not affordable.  Many citizens use out of state license plates and addresses to soothe their pockets of the unfair rates.  Also, people find methods to beat the system by “borrowing” someone else’s address who live in another city in Michigan.  Even the new Detroiters who are moving in upscale apartments downtown are using suburban addresses.  One article retrieved from www.michiganradio.org entitled, “Detroit sues Dan Gilbert’s Bedrock over tenant information” indicated, “As the city notes in court filings, “Some residents who reside in the city of Detroit use a suburban address of a relative or friend for purposes of obtaining lower auto insurance rates and/or for the purpose of avoiding city income tax liability.”

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Unfortunately, many people even myself prayed that nothing would happen until I could rob Peter to pay Paul to renew my policy.  Some drivers would purchase a seven-day policy to renew their license and vehicle tab when it is their birthday season.  In case you didn’t know, the seven-day policy no longer exists in Michigan. Thanks, Lawmakers!  You continue to show how much you truly don’t care! Oh yeah, I was offered another auto insurance that would cover my vehicle in the case of an accident, fire, vandalism or theft.  The down payment for it was decent, but the agent told me the punchline to the joke.  The insurance is not valid in the state of MI, and if I was stopped by the police, I could be fined with a $150 ticket for invalid insurance.  In addition, I was told to contact the finance company to inquiry if they offered insurance until my policy was reinstated.  The company told me they did not offer any auto coverage.

As the story continues to unfold, one agent told me to just park the car for awhile since his quote was too costly.  Ummmm, I don’t think that is a permanent solution, but merci beaucoup for your suggestion.   The Motor City was known as an auto industry, and the much needed improvements for mass public transportation has never been a number one agenda though efforts are slowly being made.   I see the uprising of bike lanes and the usage of electric scooters increasing in the city.  Hmmmm, then again maybe I could avoid auto insurance if I didn’t utilize my car.   However, riding my beloved bike and/or attempting to ride an electric scooter every day aren’t feasible solutions due to the structure of my life i.e. being a chauffeur for my children. Anyway,  the snow will soon be covering Detroit grounds, and it would be difficult for me to maneuver on either device.  You know, I did see quite a few people last winter riding their bikes in five to several inches of snow on streets that were not plowed.  I will leave that skillful act to the experts!

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Let me say this, shopping for auto insurance is a horrible experience in Detroit.  Most agents sounded sympathetic when telling me why the rates were so high and apologized while trying to explain the justifications of the injustices of unfair auto rates.  However, I thought can’t these agents be a part of the solution and lobby against these high you know so and so rates.  Oh right, but that ain’t their issue if the money is being made.  I know one politician is stating in her commercial, “Fix the Da## Roads.”  I am yelling at the television, “Correct these Unfair Rates!”  The powers that be have given people another reason to move, but as I always tell my peeps that’s not an option for me.  This issue will be addressed, Someway, Someday, and Somehow!!!!!  It needs to be resolved, because I will have a teenage driver in the house within the next two years.  My wallet can’t handle any additional stress.

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-Let your heart be full of new ventures that will lead you to the possibilities of limitless conversations!

References

Lawler, Emily.  “Bill to lower Michigan auto insurance rates fails in late-night vote.”  Michigan News, 11/3/2017 https://www.mlive.com/news/index.ssf/2017/11/bill_to_lower_michigan_auto_in.html Accessed 28 October 2018

Cwiek, Sarah. “Detroit sues Dan Gilbert’s Bedrock over tenant information.”  Michigan Radio, 05/14/2018                                                        http://www.michiganradio.org/post/detroit-sues-dan-gilberts-bedrock-over-tenant-information  Accessed 28 October 2018

 

Does the “D” have a Triple Threat? by Klassy K

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Does the “D” have a Triple Threat? by Klassy K

Hey, hey, hey, in my Fat Albert voice, no relation to Bill Cosby, but HOME SKILLETS what’s up? I’m sorry, but I’m so excited! No, I didn’t win the Mega Billion.  However, I can’t wait to start talking about the sporting events that have been going on in the D!  I know you have been checking out the games. Well, I hope at least.  Please tell me you have.  I have to say that the Da Pistons and the L-I-O-N-S, are doing pretty good so far. Yes, yes, I know in my last article, I mentioned that Da Lions “ain’t living their best life”, but Da Lions are looking quite impressive.  They must’ve read my article, just kidding! Da Lions are 3-3 and rank 3rd in the NFC North division, for those that may not know what NFC means, “National Football Conference”.  Now, I had to Google that myself.  Did you know that Da Lions have never made a Super Bowl appearance?  Close your mouth. Hopefully, that will change before my 5-year-old nephew graduates from college or when the White House has an African American Madame President.  Hey, home skillets, you never know!  I’m going to be optimistic.

Anything is possible, right?  The sky is the limit!  Believe in yourself!  Never give up!  I could think of every possible “cheer up” phrase, because sometimes money can’t always do it.  Hey, maybe a billion could?  I don’t know, cause in the words of Biggie Smalls, “mo’ money, mo’ problems.”  Players make a living doing something that they have been doing since they were kids.  You would think that it wouldn’t take much to go out on the field, stadium or court and give it their ALL!  I’m not saying all of them don’t, but I don’t know.  I guess the older you get the more stressful you become, because of the pressure of WINNING!

Speaking of stressful or should I say depression, Da Red Wings should not be allowed to enter the Little Caesars arena, period!  Mike IIitch is looking down begging God to let him come back, so he can turn around his team.  Da Red Wings rank last in the conference.  Did you hear me?  LAST!  The last game Da Red Wings played, they only had 8 chances to score.  The other team had 45 chances, I guess Da Red Wings should change their names to Da DEAD Wings or Da DEEP-Fried Wings?  I’m just saying!

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Now, Da Lions and Pistons are doing pretty good so far. So, I was hoping that the “D” had a triple threat with Da Red Wings, not.  They “ain’t living their best lives” and I’m not going back and forth about them neither.  Alright, I’m done!  Da Lions have won their last two games and what ever the coaches and players are doing, please keep on keeping on.  I’m going to keep hope alive!  Now give me an air pump fist home skillets.  I see you! Da Lions does have an upcoming game this Sunday, October 28, at 1:00 pm on Fox.  Guess what?  My psychic powers are telling me that they are going to beat the “shiznicks” out of them.  I tried to use my psychic powers on coming up with the winning lottery numbers, but God said, “How can I bless you with all that money, when gambling is a sin?”  Then I said, “Well, the person that has the winning lottery ticket, are they going to hell”? God said, “No comment.”  Well, I guess that’s why I don’t play.

Now, let’s talk about, DET-ROIT BASKET-BALL! The pre-season has come and gone.  It kind of looked like Da Pistons were not going to be a competitive team.  However, in the regular season, Da Pistons are 3-0 BABY! Did you see the last game they played against the 76ers and beat them in overtime?  OMG, shoot the way they played, it reminded me of the Bad Boys era. Blake Griffin scored 50 points!  The last time a Pistons player scored those many points in a single game was with Richard “Rip” Hamilton back in 2006.  I think Blake is trying to make the best of his days playing as a Piston.  I mean he is 29 years old, and that’s really 49 years old in basketball years.  Da Pistons are set to play the Cavaliers and the Celtics this week. Hey home skillets, do you think Da Pistons will go on a winning streak? 5-0? Be the BEAST in DA EAST?  Well, we will soon find out, but for upcoming games, highlights, etc., you can visit their website at:  https://www.nba.com/pistons 

Klassy K Sports Korner:  contributor writer for aheartfullconversations.com

Lions ain’t living their best life, thanks Matt… by Klassy K

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What’s up home skillets?? It’s your girl again, and I know it’s been a while.  Now that summer is OVER, and the kids are back to school, I am BACK BABY!! It’s football season, and you know I must talk about The Detroit Lions. The last article I wrote was about how the Lions are purring, instead of roaring. I was just about to write a positive article when they beat the New England Patriots. I was like yes, yes, yes, not like having an orgasm yes, but I was excited that the Lions won.  However, it hit me that in my opinion, the Lions won, because Matt Patricia used to be part of the New England Patriots. Who would know more about how to beat your old team better than the old defensive coordinator? I mean come on home skillets, the guy worked for the New England Patriots. So, what did you expect?

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Matt served as an assistant coach and defensive coordinator, and with that on his resume, they betta had won! I’m just saying! I know a lot of fans were rejoicing on social media, cheering in the stadium, eating and drinking beer at the tailgate, hugging and loving each other, singing ebony and ivory, and just showing love for the game. I know I was in the spirit of a lion as well, but all that excitement went with me to the bathroom, and I flushed it all down the toilet. You know why? The reason is the Lions played the Oakland Raiders, and the New York Giants the following week. In the words of Drake, they lost “back-to-back”.  Currently, the Lions are 1-3. Maybe they should change their name to “loser’s” instead of “Lions.” Why not? They have the same number of letters and they start with the letter L. Hey, I think I’m on to something. I should tell the Ford’s about my suggestion, but they are already embarrassed. So, why add salt to their existing wound. 

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I hate to even add more salt. Did you know that Jim Caldwell, former Detroit Lions coach, is now teaming up with Vince McMahon to reboot the XFL football team for 2020? I don’t know if you remembered, but basically it was a football franchise team made up of athletes that couldn’t cut it in the NFL and other leagues.  They had muscle, physical strength, and could still play the game. They did not make a lot of money either, unlike some of the heavy hitters in the NFL, but at least they got to “still” do something that they enjoyed doing.  However, it only lasted the year that the season started.  The XFL football franchise is trying to “get their groove back” or should I say, “Make Football Great Again” for the Lions anyway. Maybe XFL can bring some excitement on the days that the Detroit Lions play. Ok, I am done with the shade, not quite. Did you also know that Jim Caldwell was one of the best coaches that the Detroit Lions has had since I was born? Without telling my age, but since the early 70’s. I know the Ford’s wanted to get to the Superbowl, but hell Jim Caldwell took them to the playoffs!

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I don’t know if this new coach Matt Patricia is going to get the Lions to the playoff’s let alone a Superbowl. I know it’s his first year, I guess I should cut him some slack. Huh? Nope! Look at his resume, and then holla back at me. I am sorry Detroit fans, but 1-3 is not impressive considering Matt’s experience being a part of a ” winning team” that won playoffs, and later won Superbowl’s. Do you like the way I put the “s“, like I put the re”s”pek on that! I got mad love for teams that play together and win together. Hopefully, the Detroit Lions should have some type of motto to follow, because there is no “I” in team. Golden Tate can’t do it all, and the quarterback Matt Stafford needs to be protected. I think the Detroit Lions are lacking in “offense” and nobody can seem to protect the quarterback! If the Lions can stay away from Lafayette Coney Island and Krispy Crème doughnuts, maybe, just maybe, they can have enough cardio and strength to protect him. I’m just saying!

Well, while Jim Caldwell is “living his best life.” You can check out the Detroit Lions tomorrow, Sunday on Fox 2 Detroit, playing against the Green Bay Packers at 1:00 pm in Detroit. For more highlights and schedules, you can go to their website at www.detroitlions.com.

Klassy K Sports Korner:  contributor writer for aheartfullconversations.com

 

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