Tis the Season to Just Figure it Out by Chellyz View

Hello Detroiters, those in the Metropolitan surrounding areas and beyond!  It’s the Holiday Season.  You may be full of cheer or feeling quite Bah-Humbug or just trying to figure it out!  Either way, just stopping by to bring you good tidings, a Lil cheer, and encouragement.  My emotions are generally the same for my two favorite holidays, Halloween, and Christmas:  excited and excited! However, with the children getting grown and losing people I dearly loved, the dynamics of life are…changing.  I don’t stay up until 5:00 am imperfectly covering gifts with overpriced pretty paper and bows while praying I don’t run out of scotch tape.  Unfortunately, I didn’t pay attention in the kitchen when my grannies were cooking, so the recipes of homemade rolls, sweet potato pies, and thee best cakes on this Earth are no longer attached to my life. 

Last year, I informed you of losing my Granny https://aheartfullofconversations.com/2020/12/12/2020-the-grief-and-broken-heart-you-have-given-to-me/.  She was the last surviving member of the group known as my Most Valuable Powerhouse Grandparents .  I was blessed to have 3 Grannies and 3 Granddaddies.  My paternal grandparents dissolved their marriage and married new mates long before I was conceived.  That is how I was blessed with three sets of beautiful grandparents who spoiled me royally.  Well, to say the least many of you might be missing grandparents, parents, and loved ones.  Whatever you do, I pray that you get the help and support you deserve to function through grief, depression, or emotional roller coaster rides.

As we are in this Holiday season trying to figure out life and closing out another year, figure out each day the best way you can. If you don’t have the money to shop, don’t worry about it.  If you do, I hope you don’t overspend like I used to. But, on the other hand if you feel like chilling in your PJs living your best life, then do that.  We get so wrapped up in finding the perfect gift or stuck in how things used to be that we forget to be present in the now (I know I must have told you this before).

Whatever you decide to do this holiday season, make sure you find peace with it and in it.  Yes, reminisce about the good old days, and sit with whatever emotion you need to have as company. But, if those visitors that are causing you pain won’t leave, please seek help.

If you are up to it, experience something new you can add to your repertoire.  Honor traditions that are meaningful to you but be intentional about stirring up some new memories to savor.  Well, that’s it for now!   My gift to you is learning how to keep these posts simple yet informative! 

Happy Holidays!

-Chellyz View

-Let your heart be full of new ventures that will lead you to the possibilities of limitless conversations!

Here are some helpful links to help you stay sane!

https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline

(Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration)

1-800-662-HELP (4357)

The Samaritans

https://samaritanshope.org/get-help/

 https://bestlifeonline.com/holiday-charities/

“We Reminisce Over You” by Butch Ford

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“We Reminisce Over You” by Butch Ford

The title of this entry was inspired by a 90’s hip hop classic from Pete Rock & C.L. Smooth.  The thought behind it are feelings of love, loss, gratitude and pride mixed with a little bit of selfishness and some sadness sprinkled in too.  We’ve all lost loved ones at some point in our lives and admittedly…it hurts.

I remember watching my grandmother beam with pride and joy.  She loved family; her mother, sisters, aunts & uncles, daughters and most assuredly her grandson(s).  Holiday gatherings and family get-togethers meant everything to her.  I would marvel at the outpouring of love displayed at these functions.  It’s difficult to put it into words.  It was just simply incredible.  Boy…I really miss those days.  And then…the unthinkable began to happen.  We started losing our older relatives slowly but surely.

Now we’re the grandparents, the great aunts & uncles, the matriarchs & patriarchs of our families.  But times have changed.  Things are very different now.  The world just ain’t the same anymore.  Don’t get me wrong…we’re all blessed to still be among the living, but it’s sad watching the day to day occurrences in these dark and scary times we live in.  We gotta stay prayed up and watch out for one another.  Hopefully better days are ahead.  As the song says, “A change gon come.”  We need a change…BAD!!!

Thinking back on how my grandmother loved on all of us…that smile, those hugs and the loving, nurturing words of encouragement…makes me wonder if she missed her parents, grandparents, great aunts & uncles as much as I miss her?  If she did, she didn’t show it.  But gauging the void in my heart…how could she not?  Her focus was obviously on everyone else’s happiness.

I still smile when I think of my grandmother’s strength and courage.  The way she held everything together was nothing less than amazing.  Her memory still lives on today.  Mainly because my mother stepped up in her absence and filled those shoes remarkably.  I’m just expressing myself, but I know there are others with similar stories, right?  The message today is simple.  It’s for our loved ones who have gone on to glory…to continue watching over us while we reminisce over you.

Butch